Are you sure you are setting the right example for the next generation as a human being?
Today women are more aware and standing upfront to deal with life with or without any support. While I personally feel proud of them, sometimes it aches my heart when I see them dim their light. They often sit back before giving their opinion on anything — constantly belittling themselves for not getting it right all the time.
Well, truth to be told, how many times men got it right? Plenty, but then again, they have had their failures too and we like to call them lessons. They struggle through life too. They have had their experiences at an early age because they were pushed towards the challenges from the early times. On the contrary women like me are supposed to have an easy life. A father is earning, a mom is handling the household, and if more, there are brothers to take all the heat from the world and keep their family away from the burn.
We all appreciate the love, protection, and care, but where is the part where we get to face the challenges and MAKE OUR OWN MISTAKES and be proud of them?
Why the idea of women making mistakes, taking wrong turns, bad decisions, or even strengthening themselves for the family is too hard to digest? The times we are living in are progressing, while we still keep our hopes from the shining star which is too far to even see us.
People need to understand that making some noise because we want to be heard is not a desperate attempt. It is a cry for help to be included in the societal issues like any man. How any man is capable of talking bout the issues that women face in their lives? All we seek is to be celebrated as who we choose to be, not being judged by a man who still needs some hard parenting for himself.
We as a woman might be emotional or too sensitive for the world. But try looking at your mother, a sister, wife, or a friend today. See in their eyes and admire their bravery for holding it inside even when they know they can crush you yet choose not to harm because they care.
Ask them if they ever had a dream about how their life would be and sense if they have held themselves back so you can have better days. Judge is they ever had to smile because you were not ready to wipe off their tears and be a man to stand there and say: I AM HERE WITH YOU.
Why your mother or a sister lacks the confidence of speaking in a gathering while you are free to be inappropriate in both your conversation and judgment? You wouldn't know this because you never had the guts to stand by them like a true gentleman. You thought providing them with food, money, and clothes is all you need to do. They had more to talk, to say, to bleed, but you were never there to have a real conversation. Now, they are doomed to be silent and if they dare cry, that is soooo wrong. As a woman, they should dress up, smile, and just look pretty and perfect all the time. Why? Because they are WOMEN and they have the duty to make you happy, while you feel your obligations end for you are already a PROVIDER of a family.
Everything I talked about in an article is pretty basic, but we are still fighting for it. We see so many people around, both men and women afraid to be themselves and blindly following the norms because on the other side of the story, it is even harder to breathe. Just for a second, think about the life you are going to offer to your children. Do you think, there will be more children living in peace or dealing with depression or anxiety?
So, it is high time to stop being a target of the norms and play our part for the diversity and welcome difficult conversations too. Be there for the ladies of your home other than just being their PROTECTOR as you like to be called. For once try to understand that where they are coming from and why — regardless of what your MENTORS have been telling you. Question your learning, you may find the answers…
